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Children get mannerisms and attitudes from both parentsbut develop their inner calm and feeling of well being from how much their parents like, trust and respect each other.Increasingresearch shows that a significant part of a child’s mind andpersonality is influenced not by how their parents react to the child,but by how their parents respond to each other.
What becomesfrustrating and at times demoralizing to children is not so much thatmothers and fathers disagree or argue (as they inevitably will), butthat parents continue to argue over the same things and neverdefinitively resolve them once and for all.
When childrenobserve parents arguing without resolution they see emotion and reasonlocked in a “zero sum” fight instead of cooperating with each other.When they then internalize into their personality that emotion andreason cannot work together, their inner sense of calm and well-beingis replaced by restlessness. It is as if at any moment their ownemotion and reason are on the brink of doing battle in their mindreminiscent of what they observe between their parents. And thisdestroys inner calm and well being.
As the lack of cooperationbetween the emotion and reason in their observed world can create chaosin their life, the lack of cooperation between emotion and reason intheir own mind can create flaws in their developing personalities.
Thebest example of how emotion and reason can work together between amother and father utilizes “tag team parenting.” This is when oneparent being better at logical problem solving tells the child to go tothe other for comforting if that is what the child seems to need. Andconversely when the other parent who is better at emotional comfortingtells the child to go speak to the other for help with solving aproblem if what the child needs more is good advice.
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